Honesty, Not Forgiveness, May Be Best for Couples
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Emerging research suggests a marriage in which partners follow the time-honored tradition of forgive and forget can lead to problems.
The finding opposes the strategy of positive psychology — an approach that offered the promise that with forgiveness, optimism, kindness, and positive thinking, people can turn around their relationships even after a serious transgression.
In the new study, investigators discovered that expressing anger might be necessary to resolve a relationship problem — with the short-term discomfort of an angry but honest conversation benefiting the health of the relationship in the long-term.
Experts say the study is part of a larger effort to better understand the contexts in which some relationships succeed and others fail, and also to understand how close relationships affect our health.
James McNulty, Ph.D., of Florida State University initiated the study when he took a closer look at positive psychology and well-being.
“I continued to find evidence
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