Why It's OK to Let Kids Fail: A Guide to Not Overparenting
Huffington Post - over 3 years
Two years ago, Kristina Sauerwein, a mom of two in St. Louis, Missouri, attended a family fun night at her the new school her 7-year-old daughter Zoe attended.
One of the games, which involved putting a golf ball into a hole, gave kids the chance to win a stuffed snake. Zoe tried -- and failed -- to get the ball into the hole. Zoe's little brother, her friends, younger kids -- they all hit the ball and won a stuffed snake. Meanwhile, Zoe kept trying, with the encouragement of her mom and dad, but missed the hole every time. As the winners stood around her, shaking their snakes like trophies, Zoe gave it one last shot. It was her 11th attempt. She missed.
That's when Zoe had what her mother can only describe as "a meltdown."
"I can't tell you how hard it was to sit there and watch her cry," says Sauerwein, 42. "I'm usually a softy about these things, but somehow I knew I had to let her experience the disappointment and frustration for herself. It was awful. I felt sick to my stomac
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