So you\u2019re on a great date. He\u2019s charming, he listens, he\u2019s funny. Everything is going swimmingly, but you just can\u2019t shake the feeling that something\u2019s\u2026off. He is hiding something from you. Then you start to wonder: is he married?<\/p>\n
The signs of cheating are not always obvious, and for married men they are sometimes more subtle to catch. If you\u2019re worried he hasn\u2019t told you about his wife or family, you can always just come right out and ask. It may seem like a weird question, but infidelity isn\u2019t that uncommon. If you don\u2019t want to ask, here are some tips to find out if he\u2019s married.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019ve been on a few dates and you can\u2019t paint a mental picture of any of his friends, something is wrong. He should be talking about people other than his co-workers and you.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s possible there may be special circumstance, like if he just moved to town, but chances are he is hiding something by not letting you get closer.<\/p>\n
Before you get too suspicious, be sure you\u2019re at the right place to have heard about his friends. The third or fourth date should be plenty of time.<\/p>\n
If he hasn\u2019t brought them up, it may be because he doesn\u2019t want them to meet you. If he is cheating, he will do anything to keep you on the side and his wife and family in the dark.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re always going back to your place, or to a room, or just never coming home at all – that should be a red flag. The common excuses (too dirty, too busy, too far away) only make sense for a while. Eventually he\u2019s gotta clean his apartment up!<\/p>\n
If you ask and he becomes defensive or evasive, be very wary. This is a telltale sign of cheating on a wife and family – there\u2019s simply no way you will ever be allowed in.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s not going to be wearing a ring on dates with you, but men don\u2019t think about tan lines or indentations from where a snug ring has been sitting all day. He may even keep the ring in his wallet, pocket, or car.<\/p>\n
Snooping through his things looking for a ring makes you look like a crazy person, but if you see a spot on his left ring finger, you\u2019ll be crazy like a fox.<\/p>\n
Another classic sign of a cheater, hiding his phone during meals, shows and dates may be a red flag. It may also mean you\u2019ve found a great guy that knows how to be polite.<\/p>\n
If he manages to leave his phone out, you may want to check to see if there are any strange numbers calling him all of the time. It would be very odd for a man to change his wife or kids\u2019 names in his phone – if you see someone with his same last name, that\u2019s a dead giveaway. If you can see the number, perform a reverse phone lookup and see just who it is.<\/p>\n
If you want to find out, but don\u2019t want to ask, check his marriage records using an online background check. Marriage records will be on file in the county where he got married, so pick the most likely country and work out from there.<\/p>\n
Remember, a marriage certificate won\u2019t show divorce or separation dates. Also check for divorce records or even death certificates and match the times so you\u2019ve got the best evidence.<\/p>\n
If he\u2019s got a wife at home, and she calls, do you think he will just keep ignoring her? If he takes calls during dates and promptly dashes off out of earshot, that\u2019s a big red flag.<\/p>\n
Sure, maybe it is a work or a needy friend, but who would rather deal with that than pay attention to you?<\/p>\n
A man with a family has a lot of duties and obligations. If he always ignores spontaneous dates, last minute walks in the park, or weekend dates, there is something seriously wrong.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re dating, you have to learn each other\u2019s schedules and if his rules out a weekend and evening hours, hear warning bells. Maybe he does have a strange schedule, but it might also be his kids\u2019 football and piano lessons he\u2019s working around.<\/p>\n
How you handle it is up to you – and him. Most people would urge you to end it and walk away. If that isn\u2019t going to work, at least know what you\u2019re getting into. You could find out more about his family by using a people search service to see his wife\u2019s criminal records, marriage and divorce records, and social media profiles.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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