{"id":26609,"date":"2023-07-31T15:20:47","date_gmt":"2023-07-31T23:20:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.spokeo.com\/compass\/?p=26609"},"modified":"2023-07-31T15:20:49","modified_gmt":"2023-07-31T23:20:49","slug":"how-to-find-the-one-that-got-away","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.spokeo.com\/compass\/how-to-find-the-one-that-got-away\/","title":{"rendered":"The One That Got Away: Where Are They Now?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Do you still dream of the one that got away?  Are you wondering whatever happened to your high school or college sweetheart?  Do you find yourself imagining what-if scenarios about that sweet summer romance you had while on vacation?  Whether you\u2019re hoping to reconnect after all these years<\/a>, or just want to know how their life has turned out, there are ways to find that certain someone, even if you lost track of them decades ago. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a quick rundown of the most common ways to find people you\u2019ve lost touch with, with pros, cons and special considerations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just Google Them<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Google is pretty amazing these days, and a simple search engine query could turn up the person you\u2019re looking for, especially if they\u2019re notable in any way.  Googling someone is a very low-key way to find out more about them \u2014 it doesn\u2019t take much effort, and in most cases, they\u2019ll never even know you were peeking. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Five tips for using Google to find someone<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
    \n
  1. Enter as much information as you can about the person in your search query.  Their full name, the state and city they lived in, their school \u2014 the more information you provide, the more targeted your results will be.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Add their profession if you know it.  It will help narrow the choices in the search results.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. If you know the names of any of their relatives, try searching for their names, as well. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Add \u201cobituary\u201d to your search term.  That\u2019s not as morbid as you might think \u2014 obituaries often include the names of surviving relatives.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Different search engines use different algorithms, so if your Google search doesn\u2019t turn up anything likely, try Bing, Duck Duck Go and other search engines.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
    Pros<\/strong><\/th>Cons<\/strong><\/th><\/tr><\/thead>
    Low friction and easy to do.
    Private.
    Free.<\/td>    		Very low chance of success unless the person is fairly well-known.
    Needs a lot more information than other methods.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    Look for Them On Social Media<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Nearly everyone has at least one social media profile.  Facebook alone has nearly 3 billion active users<\/a> worldwide, and LinkedIn has about 930 million users<\/a>.  In addition, social media apps are optimized to make it easier to connect and network with others, so there are more ways to find that certain someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Five tips for using social media to find someone<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
      \n
    1. Use the site\u2019s search function to find someone.  Use their full name and last known city for better results.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. Use Facebook\u2019s filters to help you narrow search results.\u00a0 Here\u2019s how:\n
        \n
      1. Type their name into the search bar.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      2. Click on People.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      3. Filter by Friends, City, Workplace or Education.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      4. For even better results, combine filters.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      5. On Facebook, look for Groups they may have joined.  For example, many schools have alumni groups.  Even if they don\u2019t belong, you may find people in those groups who have kept in touch.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      6. On LinkedIn, look first at the \u201cPeople you may know\u201d section, especially if you worked or went to school together.  Search for them by name and profession, or search for people that may be connected to them. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
      7. Search for their email address and\/or phone number if you know them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
        Pros<\/strong><\/th>Cons<\/strong><\/th><\/tr><\/thead>
        Anyone can do it.
        Free.<\/td>        		Many people set their information to private so they don\u2019t show up in search results.
        Some people use third-party apps to see who is searching for them.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

        Go Old School<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

        Like, literally old school.  If you\u2019re looking for someone you knew in school, or through work, you may be able to find them by checking the school\u2019s alumni association or old company directories.  This can be especially helpful if you don\u2019t know a lot of details about their life since your connection.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Five tips for finding someone from your past<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
          \n
        1. Start with the obvious \u2014 your school\u2019s alumni association.  If you don\u2019t already belong, Google \u201cyour school name<\/em> alumni association,\u201d and join for free. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
        2. Check the member listing for their name.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
        3. Browse old yearbooks and reunion photos looking for more information.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
        4. Look for newsletters and alumni updates.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
        5. If you don\u2019t find anything, you can try making a post on the group\u2019s forum asking if anyone has heard from them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
          Pros<\/strong><\/th>Cons<\/strong><\/th><\/tr><\/thead>
          You have a guaranteed start for your search \u2014 a place where you knew them.
          You may find mutual connections who can help you reconnect.
          Sometimes free.<\/td>          		Many alumni sites are Freemium \u2014 if you want current information or yearbook access, for example, you may have to pay a membership fee.
          You may end up reconnecting with people you\u2019d rather not find.\u00a0<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

          Connect Through Old Mutuals<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

          If you\u2019re still in touch with other people from those days \u2014 or can find them via an online search \u2014 they may be able to reconnect you, or at least give you more information about your former sweetheart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Five tips for finding a long lost romance through mutual connections<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
            \n
          1. Your chances for success are best if you\u2019ve kept up a relationship with other people who knew you both way back when.  It can feel a little creepy to get a message from someone you haven\u2019t seen in 20 years asking how to get in touch with someone else.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
          2. Be open and honest about why you\u2019re trying to reconnect with the person.  People are more likely to help you if they trust your intentions.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
          3. If the mutuals are local, offer to buy them a coffee or get together over lunch to reminisce.  You may be surprised to learn how much they remember when you get to talking.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
          4. If they indicate they\u2019re still in touch with your old flame, ask them to pass your contact info along.  It\u2019s respectful of everyone\u2019s boundaries and privacy. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
          5. Be prepared to be rebuffed.  Even if your old sweetheart isn\u2019t interested in rekindling the flame, you may still reconnect with friends and acquaintances.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
            Pros<\/strong><\/th>Cons<\/strong><\/th><\/tr><\/thead>
            You may reconnect with other friends and acquaintances in the process.
            Free.
            <\/td>            		There\u2019s a lot of work and research involved.
            People may not feel comfortable giving you information.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

            Hire a Private Investigator<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

            If you\u2019re really determined, you could consider hiring a private investigator (PI) to do a search for you.  Private investigators are experienced at finding people who have disappeared, and may have access to tools that aren\u2019t available to regular citizens \u2014 or at least, have a better understanding of how to use them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Five tips for hiring a private investigator to find someone<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
              \n
            1. Hire a qualified private investigator.  Check their license and do a search for any complaints about them online.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
            2. Look for a PI that specializes in finding people.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
            3. Determine exactly what you hope to accomplish, and any restrictions you want in place if they should find the person you\u2019re seeking.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
            4. Get a signed contract that specifies exactly what they will do, and what it will cost before handing over any money.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
            5. Trust your gut.  While most missing persons investigators are legit, the field does attract con artists who prey on desperate people.  If something feels off, walk away.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
              Pros<\/strong><\/th>Cons<\/strong><\/th><\/tr><\/thead>
              PIs have access to tools and databases that aren’t usually publicly available.
              They have expertise in finding missing persons.<\/td>              		Hiring a private investigator can be very expensive.
              You run the risk of being scammed by an unscrupulous actor.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

              Use People Finder Tools on Spokeo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

              Technology has made it easier than ever for you to find people online.\u00a0 Spokeo\u2019s advanced search tools<\/a> can help you find information on your lost love, even if you don\u2019t remember their last name.\u00a0 Using Spokeo, you can learn:<\/p>\n\n\n\n