So you’ve been dating for a while. She’s warm, she’s beautiful, she’s moving really fast. You’re interested, maybe in something long term, but why is she trying to get you to commit so soon? Maybe she isn’t as sweet as she seems. Maybe there’s an ulterior motive. Or maybe she’s a serial monogamist.
What’s a Serial Monogamist?
Serial monogamists – people who keep moving from one serious relationship to the next. What happens when they hit the more advanced stage of serial marrier? The difference is huge, because marriage and a subsequent divorce can have lasting legal implications. And it can cost you a lot of money.
Being addicted to marriage is absolutely not the same thing as being a gold digger. They aren’t cheaters, they aren’t liars or frauds. Women that move from marriage to marriage want to married, they want to be in love, but there’s something that keeps tearing them away. It’s complicated, but there are some signs you can look for.
- She’s still close to her exes and she has a lot of exes. Serial monogamists don’t break off relationships that often – they move out of them, but keep their exes as friends. Are you the jealous type?
- She’s not made it longer than two years. Most of her relationships ended before she hit the two year mark. They may have turned sour, or she may have just left.
- She’s moving really fast. Your first dates were great – maybe the best you’ve ever had. Serial monogamists are good at starting new relationships and if they’re the marrying kind, they move fast.
- She doesn’t seem to have a type. Are her exes all over the map? From looks to income, interests and politics – are they just all over the place? If she doesn’t have a type it may be a sign she’s a serial marrier.
If you feel cheated, that’s normal, but keep in mind that a serial monogamist isn’t doing this for money, they don’t even want to hurt the people they’re with. They are just not the type for settling down, but they sure do seem like they are and they might think they are – especially if they’re moving toward marriage. That can lead to a lot of problems for both of you (but mostly you) if you aren’t expect it.
How To Find Her Marriage Records Fast
If you’re moving quickly out of the dating stage and into something more serious, you may want to know about her past marriages. An easy way to do this is to check out her marriage records online. It’s easy to find public records like marriage and divorce certificates. Just plug in her name, phone number and any other contact info – the more you have, the more quickly you’ll find her in the results.
Not only will you find her records, you’ll find her other social media profiles. Serial monogamists don’t usually hide their past but she might be trying to keep you from being jealous and just failed to mention her exes.
Look for patterns: marriages that last less than two years, uncontested divorces, lots of friends that are former lovers. These all point to a serial monogamist.