Old high school sweetheart still on your mind? Maybe things are going south in your current relationship and you just wonder: what if? Could you start over again? Would it be worth it? It is easier than ever to find your old crush, but before you do – you should know if it’s worth it.
Are You Sure?
Be careful playing with the fire of an old flame—even old embers can burn down a house!
Studies show that old flames are likely to rekindle into wildfires. This might be good news, if you’re both single. People are drawn to their past lovers, especially the ones we had when we were young and impressionable. Why? Because the brain imprints those memories deep into ourselves, those experiences become the cornerstones that we build our future relationships.
When two old flames meet again, all of those emotions come rushing back. And not just figuratively – your brains release chemicals that reinforce these old feelings in a way that can be hard to get around.
This is important to know because finding an old love – even just to talk and catch up – will often turn into something else, even if you don’t mean to do it.
Use a People Search Engine to Find an Old Flame
A dedicated people search can find whoever you’re looking for with just a name a known, past address – just a city and state will do. You’ll get links to their social media profiles, possible friends and family, and even their phone number.
Contact Old Friends
Reach out to old friends that you may still have in common. This is a good way to test the waters before you call your old love. See where they are in life, and if it would be worth the effort to contact them.
Don’t stop at just old friends either, look up their new friends and see who they are, what they’re up to, what they like and where they live. Depending on how long ago you were together, a lot may have changed. They may not be the person you remember and their friends can help you see how they’ve changed.
Check Social Media
It’s really easy to find someone on social media, and a lot of people are on it. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram – they’re all great places to start but a lot of people lock their profiles down tight. If you hit a roadblock, you can turn back to a people search to find out more details.
If you’ve made up your mind to find an old flame, it’s not hard to pin them down, but be ready for a shock. The numbers say you’re likely to turn the heat up once again, but on the other hand they might be an entirely different person.