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Marriage and Divorce States – 2023 Statistics and Reports

by Spokeo

The rates of marriage and divorce in the U.S. have been gradually changing over time as people adapt to more modern ways of living. But how do factors like location and age relate to marriage and divorce? And just how many marriages end in divorce these days?

Using data from the U.S. Census Bureau, Statista, and Forbes between 1920 and 2022, this study on behalf of Spokeo has compiled some of the most interesting marriage and divorce statistics using the latest data and reports to see how the world is changing when it comes to relationships.

Key statistics

  • In the U.S., the average age at which men marry for the first time is 30.9 years, while it’s 28.8 for women. The average age has increased over time from 26.7 for men and 25 for women in 1998.
  • People in Utah get married the youngest, with women marrying at 23.5 years old, and men marrying at 25.6 years old on average. This is likely due to Utah having the largest Mormon population in the U.S.
  • It is estimated that 1.2% of the 61.3 million households with married couples in the U.S. are made up of same-sex couples.
  • The percentage of married people has decreased with every generation, with 44% of Millennials aged 23 to 38 being married, compared to 81% for the Silent Generation.
  • Divorce rates have been declining since 2000 when the rate was 4, and it is predicted they will reach a low of 2.2 by 2027.
  • Over a third of marriages (34.7%) end in divorce; this is a 14.9% decrease from the 40.8% of marriages that ended in divorce in 2000.
  • Arkansas and West Virginia are the states with the highest percentage of divorced people at 13.3% in both.

Marriage statistics in the U.S.

According to the most recent figures, the marriage rate in the U.S. is 6 marriages per 1,000 people, with a total of 1,985,072 weddings taking place in 2021. This was an increase from the rate of 5.1 marriages per 1,000, and 1,676,911 marriages in total in 2020. This increase from 2020 to 2021 can most likely be attributed to the COVID-19 pandemic, which caused the cancellation of many wedding ceremonies in 2020. 

In New York and California, the current marriage rate is 5.2, which falls fairly low on the state ranking. These states are also among those when people get married the latest in life, with the average age of first marriage in New York being 29.6, and 28.4 in California.

Although the marriage rate and the number of marriages increased in 2021, these figures were both still 2% lower than in 2019. In fact, marriage rates have declined every year since 2016.

Marriage rates by state

Vegas weddings likely push Nevada to the top spot.

The latest data from the U.S. Census shows that the state with the highest marriage rate is Nevada, with 26.2 marriages per 1,000 people over the age of 15. This is likely due to the number of people who get married in Las Vegas, known as ‘the marriage capital of the world’, where around 120,000 marriages take place each year.

After Nevada, Hawaii has the highest marriage rate at 12.8, followed by Montana at 11, and Utah at 9.1. Interestingly, Utah is the state with the highest population of Mormon adherents, with 66% of the population identifying as Mormons. This likely contributes to the higher marriage rate in this state.

The state with the lowest marriage rate is Louisiana, at 4.4, followed by Massachusetts (4.6), and Illinois (4.7).

California and New York both land at 39th on the list, with a marriage rate of 5.2.

Rank State Marriage Rate 2021
  U.S. Average 6
1 Nevada 26.2
2 Hawaii 12.8
3 Montana 11
4 Utah 9.1
5 Arkansas 8.2
6 Alabama 7.6
6 Tennessee 7.6
8 Colorado 7.4
8 Idaho 7.4
8 Vermont 7.4
8 Wyoming 7.4
12 Washington DC 7.3
12 Maine 7.3
14 Florida 6.8
15 New Hampshire 6.7
16 South Carolina 6.5
17 Alaska 6.3
17 Kentucky 6.3
17 South Dakota 6.3
20 North Carolina 6.2
21 Oklahoma 6.1
22 Indiana 6
22 Mississippi 6
22 Missouri 6
22 West Virginia 6
26 New Mexico 5.9
26 Virginia 5.9
28 Rhode Island 5.8
28 Texas 5.8
30 Oregon 5.7
31 Georgia 5.5
31 Washington 5.5
33 Arizona 5.4
33 Connecticut 5.4
33 Kansas 5.4
33 Pennsylvania 5.4
37 Iowa 5.3
37 Nebraska 5.3
39 California 5.2
39 Maryland 5.2
39 Michigan 5.2
39 New York 5.2
39 North Dakota 5.2
39 Ohio 5.2
45 New Jersey 5.1
46 Wisconsin 5
47 Delaware 4.9
48 Minnesota 4.8
49 Illinois 4.7
50 Massachusetts 4.6
51 Louisiana 4.4

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Total number of marriages by state

In total, almost 2 million marriages took place in the U.S. in 2021.

The state with the highest number of marriages was California, where 203,443 marriages took place. This is unsurprising as California has the highest population of all of the states, at 39.24 million.

Although California has the most marriages, its marriage rate is on the lower side at 5.2 per 1,000 people.

Rank State Marriages 2021
  U.S. Total 1,985,072
1 California 203,443
2 Texas 170,486
3 Florida 149,102
4 New York 103,632
5 Nevada 82,386
6 Pennsylvania 70,221
7 North Carolina 65,663
8 Ohio 61,803
9 Georgia 59,603
10 Illinois 59,487
11 Tennessee 53,032
12 Michigan 51,882
13 Virginia 51,059
14 New Jersey 47,343
15 Colorado 42,945
16 Washington 42,405
17 Indiana 40,693
18 Arizona 39,453
19 Alabama 38,190
20 Missouri 37,254
21 South Carolina 33,916
22 Maryland 32,255
23 Massachusetts 32,004
24 Utah 30,324
25 Wisconsin 29,616
26 Kentucky 28,402
27 Minnesota 27,373
28 Arkansas 24,863
29 Oklahoma 24,405
30 Oregon 24,254
31 Louisiana 20,243
32 Connecticut 19,491
33 Hawaii 18,496
34 Mississippi 17,842
35 Iowa 17,022
36 Kansas 15,708
37 Idaho 14,032
38 New Mexico 12,550
39 Montana 12,174
40 West Virginia 10,771
41 Nebraska 10,437
42 Maine 10,035
43 New Hampshire 9,359
44 Rhode Island 6,355
45 South Dakota 5,611
46* Washington D.C 4,895
47 Delaware 4,886
48 Vermont 4,764
49 Alaska 4,627
50 Wyoming 4,279
51 North Dakota 4,001

Source

 *Washington D.C. is included

How many people are currently married?

Just under half of people in the U.S. are currently married.

The most recent Census data shows that 48.5% of people in the U.S. are married. Using 2023’s population figures, this would amount to approximately 160.9 million people.

Men over 65 are the most likely to be married, with 68.5% of people in this group being currently married. For women, those aged between 45 and 54 are most likely to be married, at 63.1%.

When comparing by race, Asian people have the highest percentage of married people at 57%, while Black people have the lowest at 30.6%.

The states with the most married people

Utah has the most married people, while Washington DC has the fewest.

The state with the most married people is Utah, where 55.3% of people over 15 are currently married. This is followed by Idaho at 54.8%, and Wyoming at 53.8%.

Washington DC has the fewest married people at just 30.2%, followed by Louisiana at 43.5%, and New York at 44.4%.

Rank State Percentage of people aged 15 years and over who are currently married
  U.S. Average 48.5%
1 Utah 55.3%
2 Idaho 54.8%
3 Wyoming 53.8%
4 Nebraska 52.3%
5 Maine 51.6%
6 Kansas 51.4%
6 New Hampshire 51.4%
6 South Dakota 51.4%
9 Iowa 51.2%
10 Montana 50.9%
11 Minnesota 50.8%
12 Washington 50.7%
13 Colorado 50.2%
13 North Dakota 50.2%
15 Hawaii 50%
16 New Jersey 49.9%
16 Wisconsin 49.9%
18 Texas 49.7%
19 Virginia 49.5%
20 Missouri 49.4%
20 Vermont 49.4%
22 West Virginia 49.3%
23 Indiana 49.2%
24 Alaska 49%
24 Kentucky 49%
26 Arkansas 48.9%
26 Oklahoma 48.9%
28 Oregon 48.8%
28 Tennessee 48.8%
30 Arizona 48.7%
31 North Carolina 48.5%
32 Delaware 48.1%
32 Pennsylvania 48.1%
34 South Carolina 47.9%
35 Michigan 47.7%
36 Maryland 47.5%
37 Florida 47.4%
37 Illinois 47.4%
39 Ohio 47.2%
40 Alabama 47.1%
41 Connecticut 46.9%
42 Massachusetts 46.6%
43 Georgia 46.5%
44 California 46.4%
45 Nevada 45.1%
46 Rhode Island 44.9%
47 New Mexico 44.7%
48 Mississippi 44.5%
49 New York 44.4%
50 Louisiana 43.5%
51* Washington D.C 30.2%

Source

*Washington, D.C. is included.

Marital status of the U.S. population

The rates of divorce and widowhood are higher among women than men.

As of 2022, 51.7% of men and 49.9% of women are married. A higher percentage of women are divorced and widowed compared to men. 8.4% of women are widowed, compared to 2.8% of men, and 10.7% of women are divorced, compared to 8.4% of men.

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Change in marriage rates over time

The U.S. marriage rate has declined by 50% in 101 years.

Marriage rates have fluctuated over time between 1920 and 2021, and during this period, the marriage rate across the U.S. has declined by 50% from 12 to 6.

Prior to the 2000s, the lowest marriage rate was in 1932 during the Great Depression. One study found that the low marriage rate during this era was likely down to poor job opportunities for men. However, marriages tended to be delayed rather than denied, and began picking up after this period. In 1946, after the end of the Second World War, the marriage rate reached an all-time high of 16.4. This is still higher than any marriage rate recorded since.

Overall, marriage rates have been on a steady decline since the 1980s, from 10.6 in 1980 to 6.9 in 2015. Since 2016, marriage rates have fallen every year, from 7 in 2016 to 6.1 in 2019, and then 5.1 in 2020. The steep drop seen in 2020 was due to the COVID-19 pandemic which caused thousands of weddings to be cancelled or postponed. Marriage rates rose to 6 in 2021 as weddings recovered from the pandemic, but this was still lower than 2019’s figure.

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Men get married older than women on average

As of 2023, the average age at which men get married for the first time is 30.9 years, while it’s 28.8 for women.

This figure has been rising steadily over time from 26.7 for men and 25 for women in 1998.

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The average age someone gets married varies by state

The age of first marriage varies from a high of 30.2 in Washington DC to a low of 24.6 in Utah.

People in Washington DC get married the oldest on average at 30.6 for men and 29.8 for women. This is followed by people in New York, where the average age of marriage for men is 30.3, and for women is 28.8.

The state where people get married the youngest is Utah, where women marry at 23.5, and men marry at 25.6 on average. As we mentioned earlier, Utah has the highest population of Mormons in the U.S. which likely contributes to this lower average age of marriage.

  Average age of first marriage by state
Rank State Women Men Combined
1 Washington D.C 29.8 30.6 30.2
2 New York 28.8 30.3 29.6
3 Massachusetts 28.8 30.1 29.5
4 New Jersey 28.1 30.1 29.1
4 Rhode Island 28.2 30 29.1
4 Vermont 28.8 29.3 29.1
7 Maryland 27.7 29.5 28.6
8 Pennsylvania 27.6 29.3 28.5
9 California 27.3 29.5 28.4
9 Illinois 27.5 29.3 28.4
11 Florida 27.2 29.4 28.3
12 New Hampshire 26.8 29.3 28.1
13 Delaware 26.9 29 28.0
14 Michigan 26.8 28.9 27.9
15 Hawaii 26.7 28.6 27.7
15 Maine 26.8 28.6 27.7
15 Virginia 26.7 28.6 27.7
18 Minnesota 26.6 28.5 27.6
19 Ohio 26.6 28.4 27.5
19 Oregon 26.4 28.5 27.5
19 South Carolina 26.7 28.2 27.5
19 Wisconsin 26.6 28.4 27.5
23 Louisiana 26.6 28.4 27.5
24 Georgia 26.3 28.3 27.3
25 Arizona 26.2 28.1 27.2
27 Colorado 26.1 28 27.1
27 Montana 25.7 28.5 27.1
27 New Mexico 26.1 28.1 27.1
27 North Carolina 26.3 27.9 27.1
31 Washington 26 27.9 27.0
32 Missouri 26.1 27.6 26.9
33 Indiana 26.1 27.4 26.8
33 Mississippi 26.1 27.5 26.8
35 North Dakota 25.9 27.5 26.7
36 Alabama 25.8 27.4 26.6
36 Iowa 25.8 27.4 26.6
36 Texas 25.7 27.5 26.6
39 Nebraska 25.7 27.2 26.5
39 Tennessee 25.7 27.3 26.5
39 West Virginia 27.3 25.7 26.5
42 Kansas 25.5 27 26.3
42 Kentucky 25.4 27.1 26.3
42 South Dakota 25.5 27 26.3
45 Alaska 25 27.4 26.2
46 Wyoming 24.5 26.8 25.7
47 Arkansas 24.8 26.3 25.6
47 Oklahoma 24.8 26.3 25.6
49 Idaho 24 25.8 24.9
50 Utah 23.5 25.6 24.6

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Marriage rates vary by generation

The percentage of married people has decreased with every generation.

Studies show that when the Greatest Generation were aged between 23 and 38 (roughly between the 1940s and 1960s), 81% of them were married. This figure has reduced with each generation, with 61% of Baby Boomers being married at this age, and 53% of Gen X.

For Millennials, this figure has almost halved compared to the Silent Generation, with only 44% of Millennials being married between the ages of 23 and 38.

Generation Married between age 23 and 38
Greatest Generation 81%
Baby Boomers 61%
Gen X 53%
Millennials 44%

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The average cost of a wedding by state

In the U.S., the average cost of a wedding is $28,146 but this figure varies by state.

New Jersey has the most expensive weddings, at a typical cost of $51,000 for a ceremony and reception. This is followed by Massachusetts and New York, both at $46,000.

Utah, Oklahoma, and Kansas have the lowest-cost weddings at an average of $16,000, while Wyoming, New Mexico, and Montana come in second at $18,000.

Rank State Average cost of a wedding ceremony and reception
  U.S. Average $28,146
1 New Jersey $51,000
2 Massachusetts $46,000
2 New York $46,000
4 Rhode Island $43,000
4 Vermont $43,000
6 Washington D.C $40,000
7 Connecticut $39,000
7 Delaware $39,000
7 Maryland $39,000
10 California $37,000
10 Illinois $37,000
12 Pennsylvania $33,000
13 South Carolina $32,000
14 Louisiana $31,000
14 Maine $31,000
14 Virginia $31,000
14 West Virginia $31,000
18 Colorado $30,000
18 Florida $30,000
18 New Hampshire $30,000
21 North Carolina $29,000
22 Mississippi $28,000
23 Michigan $27,000
23 Texas $27,000
25 Georgia $26,000
25 Ohio $26,000
25 Wisconsin $26,000
28 Minnesota $25,000
29 Arizona $23,000
29 Indiana $23,000
29 Missouri $23,000
29 Washington $23,000
33 Alabama $22,000
33 Tennessee $22,000
35 Arkansas $21,000
35 Nebraska $21,000
35 Nevada $21,000
38 Kentucky $21,000
38 North Dakota $20,000
38 South Dakota $20,000
41 Idaho $19,000
41 Iowa $19,000
41 Oregon $19,000
44 Montana $18,000
44 New Mexico $18,000
44 Wyoming $18,000
47 Kansas $16,000
47 Oklahoma $16,000
47 Utah $16,000
47 Utah $16,000

Source

Same-sex marriage statistics

The Census Bureau estimates that 1.2% of the 61.3 million households with married couples in the U.S. are made up of same-sex couples.

Of all same-sex married-couple households, marriages between two women were more common, accounting for 52.6% of same-sex marriages, compared to 47.7% between two men.

Divorce statistics

The latest data on divorces shows that the current divorce rate in the U.S. is 2.5, meaning there were 2.5 divorces per 1,000 people in the last year.

Change in divorce rates over time

The U.S divorce rate declined from 4 to 2.5 between 2000 and 2021.

The divorce rate in the U.S. has been gradually declining since the year 2000 when the divorce rate was 4 per 1,000 people. The rate dipped sharply to 2.3 per 1,000 people in 2020, possibly due to the COVID-19 pandemic having an effect on the work that divorce attorneys could carry out and causing backlogs with related paperwork. However, divorce rates rose back up to 2.5 in 2021, continuing the same downward trend shown before the pandemic.

If divorce rates continue on the same pattern, it is predicted that they will reach a low of 2.2 by 2027.

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Over a third of marriages end in divorce

The percentage of marriages ending in divorce has decreased from 40.8% in 2000.

The latest data shows that 34.7% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. This figure has fluctuated since the year 2000 when 40.8% of marriages ended in divorce. 2002 saw the highest percentage of divorces during this time period with 41.7% of marriages ending.

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Lack of family support is the leading cause of divorce

Divorced individuals cited a lack of family support as the most common reason for their divorce.

43% of divorcees surveyed by Forbes in 2023 cited a lack of family support as a factor that led to their divorce.

This was followed by infidelity or extramarital affairs at 34%, and lack of compatibility, too much conflict and lack of intimacy (all 31%).

Other common reasons for divorce include financial stress (24%), getting married too young (10%), and issues with substance abuse (3%).

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How many people are divorced in the U.S.?

The latest Census figures show that, out of all people aged over 15 in the U.S., 11% are divorced.

When looking at age groups, people aged between 55 and 64 are most likely to be divorced with 17.4% of males, and 20% of females in this age group being a divorcee.

Breaking down the percentage of divorced people by race, Black people have the highest percentage at 11.9%, and Asian people have the lowest percentage of divorcees at 5.5%.

The states with the most divorced people

The U.S. states with the highest percentage of divorced people are Arkansas and West Virginia.

13.3% of people in Arkansas and West Virginia are divorced. New Jersey has the lowest percentage of divorcees at 8.5%, followed by Utah at 8.6%.

Rank State Percentage of people aged 15 years and over who are divorced
  U.S. Average 11%
1 Arkansas 13.3%
1 West Virginia 13.3%
3 Maine 13.2%
4 Nevada 12.8%
4 New Mexico 12.8%
6 Oregon 12.7%
7 Kentucky 12.6%
7 Oklahoma 12.6%
9 Florida 12.5%
9 Indiana 12.5%
11 Wyoming 12.3%
12 Alabama 12.2%
13 Idaho 11.9%
13 Montana 11.9%
13 Ohio 11.9%
13 Tennessee 11.9%
17 Missouri 11.8%
18 Louisiana 11.7%
18 New Hampshire 11.7%
20 Arizona 11.6%
21 Michigan 11.5%
21 Mississippi 11.5%
23 Vermont 11.4%
23 Washington 11.4%
25 Alaska 11.3%
25 Georgia 11.3%
27 Colorado 11.1%
28 Kansas 11%
29 Wisconsin 10.8%
31 North Carolina 10.7%
32 Iowa 10.5%
32 South Carolina 10.5%
34 Connecticut 10.4%
34 Nebraska 10.4%
36 Minnesota 10.1%
37 Virginia 10%
38 Delaware 9.9%
38 South Dakota 9.9%
38 Texas 9.9%
41 Maryland 9.8%
41 North Dakota 9.8%
43 Pennsylvania 9.7%
44 Illinois 9.6%
45 Hawaii 9.4%
46* Washington DC 9.3%
47 Massachusetts 9.2%
48 New York 9.1%
49 California 8.9%
50 Utah 8.6%
51 New Jersey 8.5%

Source

*Washington, D.C. included

The average cost of divorce by state

The average cost of a divorce in the U.S. is $9,960 per person, but the cost varies from state to state.

The most expensive state to get divorced in is California, where someone will pay $14,435 on average, followed by New York where the cost of divorce is $13,835.

Montana is the cheapest state to get a divorce in, with the average person paying $6,170, and New Mexico comes in second at $6,637.

Rank State Average cost of divorce per person
  U.S. Average $9,960
1 California $14,435
2 New York $13,835
3 Texas $12,792
4 Connecticut $12,360
5 New Jersey $12,300
6 Massachusetts $12,200
7 Delaware $12,165
8 Virginia $11,584
9 Georgia $11,400
10 Colorado $11,230
11 Pennsylvania $11,202
12 Maryland $11,165
13 Utah $10,725
14 Florida $10,409
15 Alabama $10,400
15 Rhode Island $10,400
17 Illinois $10,334
18 Washington $10,314
19 Oregon $10,301
20 Alaska $10,288
21 Arizona $10,280
22 Nevada $10,258
23 Michigan $10,215
24 Louisiana $10,200
25 Missouri $10,184
26 South Carolina $10,150
27 North Carolina $10,113
28* Washington DC $10,080
29 Tennessee $9,722
30 New Hampshire $9,400
31 Minnesota $9,365
32 Ohio $9,350
33 Hawaii $9,240
34 Iowa $9,184
35 Oklahoma $9,183
36 Indiana $9,157
37 Vermont $9,090
38 Wyoming $9,085
39 Wisconsin $8,690
40 South Dakota $8,595
41 Kansas $8,400
42 Mississippi $8,400
43 Idaho $8,181
44 Arkansas $8,165
45 Nebraska $8,158
46 Kentucky $8,151
47 West Virginia $8,134
48 Maine $8,120
49 North Dakota $8,080
50 New Mexico $6,637
51 Montana $6,170

Source

*Washington, D.C. included

More U.S. divorce statistics

  • The average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is 8 years.
  • Spouses aged between 25 and 39 account for 60% of all divorces.
  • The average couple is 30 years old at the time of their first divorce.

Conclusion

Overall, marriage and divorce rates have changed significantly over the last 25+ years. Both marriage and divorce are declining with each generation, and people are waiting longer on average to get married if they get married at all. The marriage rate has declined by 50% from 12 in 1920 to 6 in 2021, with divorce rates expected to reach an all-time low of 2.2 by 2027.

Location also impacts marriage in divorce with people getting married younger and more commonly in states like Utah, compared to New York where people marry later in life or not at all.

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