According to a study reported in The Atlantic, heterosexual women are cheating 40% more now than they did in the 1990s. It’s undeniably easier for people of both sexes to cheat these days thanks to technology. However, the main reason the gender gap in adultery is closing is because women are no longer “settling” or expecting their partner to provide all their needs.
“[It’s] about choice,” explains Helen Fisher, Ph.D, author of Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray. “Women are more aware of the alternatives to monogamy and more inclined to demand to have all their needs met.”
Female Infidelity Statistics
- 19.2% of women surveyed have cheated sexually in their current relationship.
- More than 50% of women cheat on their mates.
- Ashley Madison users in their 30s were just as likely to be women as men.
- Over 60% of affairs start at work.
Aside from the obvious changes in routine or appearance, what are other red flags she may have gone beyond micro-cheating to full-fledged cheating?
She’s Worried About Your Fidelity
People who lie tend to worry that others are lying to them. When she suddenly seems to be focused on your fidelity, she could be turning the tables.
Having an affair can make people feel young and reckless, which increases risky behaviors related to alcohol consumption and sex.
If she’s texting more and smiling at her phone, that’s a red flag. So is spending more time on social media, especially as some cheaters create hidden social profiles.
When someone has a guilty conscience about a behavior, they sometimes try to normalize it in conversation. Everybody does it. Everyone would do it if they could.
Hyper-Critical or Totally Breezy
If she’s suddenly pointing out your flaws, she could be comparing you to someone else who’s raising the bar. Conversely, if she stops complaining about things that used to always get under her skin, that could also be cause for concern.
She can be trying to cover her tracks by creating a routine. If she always calls or texts you around the same time, she may be covering the fact that her day-to-day patterns are changing.
Sudden Change in Entertainment
Maybe she used to enjoy a naughty thriller about a couple having an affair, but now she’s not really interested. These stories might be hitting a little too close to home. Or she might suddenly be into a genre of film she’d always hated before.
What Can You Do?
There’s plenty you can do to get peace of mind or at least start the conversation.
Find Out Who She’s Texting
If you know a phone number she texts a lot, run a Reverse Phone Search to identify the owner.
Uncover Social Media Accounts
See if she has dating or social media profiles you don’t know about with a Reverse Email Search.
Talk to Her
Women tend to stray because they crave an emotional connection they’re not getting with their current partner. Ask her how she’s feeling and what you can do to spark that connection again.