How to Find If Someone is Married

Daters deserve to know


Have you ever wondered how to find if someone is married? Perhaps you didn’t spot a ring but were too shy to ask. Or maybe you met them on a dating site and have some suspicions about their true relationship status. Either way, most marriage licenses are public record. Here’s how to quickly discover the truth.

One Way to Find Someone’s Marriage Status

While marriage status is public record, you’ll need to know at least a few things about who you’re searching for first. The most important thing to know is first and last name. If you also have a reasonably good idea of where they reside, you can search them quickly using a people search engine. Simply enter the name, city and state. (If you aren’t sure of the exact city, just enter their name and browse from there.)

Within seconds you’ll have a complete report of all the available public records on the person, including address, phone number, email address, and even marital status. 

It’s a fast and effective way to get a lot of pertinent info without having to comb through thousands of Google results.

How to Search Marriage (and Divorce) Records

Another easy way to find out if someone is married is to search government records.

First make sure you have their full name and the county in which the marriage would’ve likely taken place. Then you can easily search county records online by following a few simple steps:

  1. Enter into Google the county name and the words “online marriage records.”
  2. If that county has online records, the Google results will return a link to that website. Click the link to that website. 
  3. Enter the person’s full name and search to see available listings.

You can also search divorce records the same way. Marriage licenses will include the names of both partners and the date/location of the marriage. Do note that some counties will charge a nominal fee, but that’s usually just for a certified copy.

Also, note that California offers confidential marriage licenses (a legally binded marriage license not in the public record), but it’s currently the only state to do so.

How to Find If Someone is Married

When it comes to online dating, doing your research is essential. While millions are finding love every day on sites like OKCupid, eHarmony and Tinder, some are victims of romance scammers and liars. One study suggests that  53% of men and women lie on their online dating profile. While some lies are relatively harmless (fibbing your height/weight is most common), others can lead to heartbreak.

As the continued success of Ashley Madison demonstrates, extra-marital affairs are as popular as ever and it’s not unusual to hear about someone’s latest flame turning out to be taken.

If you have a sinking feeling your new special someone may be married and have already tried searching marriage records by name, you can also search their email address or online username and see associated social media profiles, some of which (like Facebook) could include their relationship status.

You Have the Right to Know

Public records are public for a reason. You only need a few small bits of info to begin your search. Finding out someone is married may be painful, but you have a right to know. Don’t allow yourself to be at the mercy of their word. Take control of the situation and discover the truth today.