Who Are They Texting?

Here's how you can find out.

For all they do to make our lives easier, smartphones can also cause a lot of complications, especially when it comes to relationships. Texting makes staying in touch with someone as easy as typing a few words on a screen, but therein lies the problem.

Have you noticed your partner spending more time texting than usual? Do they get huffy when you try and call them on it?

If the answer is Yes, read on to find out what you should do next to look up who they are texting.

Look For These Infidelity Signs Before You Ask Who They’re Texting

If you’ve started to feel suspicious that your partner is cheating on you, it may have been tempting to demand that they show you their text messages so you could catch them red-handed. 

Being overprotective of their phone is just one possible symptom of infidelity, as they will do just about anything to prevent you from finding out who they are texting. Odds are a cheater will take a “moral stand” and refuse to show you their message history if you ask. Luckily, the real cheater will almost always give themselves away with one or more other warning signals.

These include:

  • Acting distant
  • Withholding physical intimacy
  • Changing physical appearance
  • Becoming extra-critical of you
  • Spending long hours “at the office” or “with friends”

Do any of these resonate with you? If so, you could very well be on to something.

Smiling while texting is no sign of anything: they could just be enjoying delightful dog memes. Wait until you’ve established a clear pattern of behavior before you get too worried or make an accusation. If they become strangely defensive or even irate when you ask them what they’re smiling at, however, that’s a red flag.

This type of reaction may indicate that it’s the right time to try to find out who they are texting.

One Search Could Help You Find Out Who They Are Texting

If you notice your partner spending more time alone with their phone and less time alone with you, it’s natural to wonder and who else they may be texting. Since coming right out and asking them likely won’t work (again, they’ll probably just lie about it), one proven way to find out more information is to search any unknown numbers you encounter using a people search engine to find more information.

While you should never steal their phone to find who are they texting, if you do happen to catch a mystery phone number on your shared phone plan or on a post-it note, running a reverse phone lookup can provide you with more information including full name, location, age, social media pics/profiles and more. You can do the same with names you don’t recognize as well as search an unknown number to find out who is texting you!

However hard most cheaters try, most will eventually fail to hide their behavior somewhere or cover their tracks. For the victims of infidelity, knowledge is power. The sooner infidelity is exposed, the faster the victim can move on and heal. For the cheater, the clock is always ticking.